Sex addiction has reared its head again. The new buzzword is ‘hypersexuality’, which, ironically, is hardly ever related to sex.
According to various media ‘agony aunts,’ men with co-called problems with masturbation, who spend considerable amounts of time, up to 12 hours a day in some cases, viewing pornography or interacting sexually through chat rooms, social media, dating apps, and webcam, have issues with anxiety and depression, and fears around social rejection. For these men, medical experts suggest, the problem with pornography is not that it is addictive, but that it is used to alleviate stress, boredom, low mood, or to put off doing less fun tasks, like working.
A few years ago, a celebrity sex therapist, in the USA, suggested that most men who visit escorts more than once a month are probably addicted to sex. We did not agree with this prognosis then and we don’t agree with it now, largely because, in our considerable experience, our regular customers spend much less time viewing porn etc than they spend working.
The most common cited reason, by customers of Asian escorts, for using the services of an escort is a mismatch in sex drive between partners i.e. girlfriends and wives want less sex, less often.
The other major factor is fantasy or “kinks” – i.e. many men only find sex satisfying when incorporating kinky activities. If their committed partner is not interested or willing, they will seek sex outside of the relationship with partners who are i.e. escorts. A high percentage – more than 30% – of our customers are sexually turned on by things they know most people don’t find arousing. Some of their preferred sexual activities include cross-dressing, incorporating bodily waste, and being humiliated during sex.